I’m a little bit weary of writing a post about politics because everyone knows that politics and the internet can be an explosive mix that makes the Mommy Wars look tame. But what same sex marriage comes down to, I think, is basic human rights not politics. If two loving, consenting, committed adults want to show and celebrate their commitment by way of a marriage then they should be able to do so. We don’t have a right to discriminate based on sexual orientation or gender.
There’s the whole “but homosexuality is wrong” objection people raise sometimes. Do you mean wrong, like, “ewwwwww!” or wrong like “the Bible tells me so?” Because if it’s the former, I think Kim Kardashian is kind of “ewwwww!” but don’t see that as grounds to strip her of the right to marry.
If your objection to homosexuality is religious then fair enough. You are entitled to your religious views. If your house of worship agrees with you then they don’t have to perform same sex marriages or recognize them in a religious sense. But we can’t legislate that everyone in the country follow our religious views.
Besides, though it usually involves sex, marriage isn’t really about sex. Here’s the Republican state legislator from College Place, WA (woot!) eloquently driving home that point:
Same sex marriage may not be “traditional” if by “traditional” you mean “what we have now.” A couple of hundred years ago, “traditionally,” interracial marriage was illegal, interfaith marriage was illegal, and women were literally their husband’s property. Divorce was off the table no matter what. People sometimes say that any kind of change to marriage laws puts us on a very slippery slope but the laws clearly have changed before and most would argue for the better since the changes embraced equal human rights.
And another beautiful aspect of legalizing same sex marriage is that no one is forced to do it if they don’t want to. I’m straight. I’m married. I still get to be straight-married. To the same guy, even. No worries.
If you’d prefer to have an uber-traditional straight marriage complete with frowning on interracial and interfaith marriage, pretending divorce is about as real as the Easter Bunny, and denying the female partner the right to work and own property then two loving, consenting, committed adults can still go for it.
And if you’re disgusted by the idea of same sex marriage then you don’t have to get gay married or go to gay weddings. Zip up that sweater vest, perm up that Duggar hair, and get down with your uber-conservative, uber-traditional selves. There is a 0% chance that legalizing same sex marriage will stop you.
There is a 100% chance that legalizing same sex marriage will lead to gay people marrying. And, really, that’s okay because it wasn’t right to strip people of basic human rights based on their sexual orientation in the first place.